I’ve been struggling with the prudent handling of personal knowledge of such matters by remaining mute about the elephant I observed in the room where family were not present. I didn’t ask for the cocaine guy at the party where I was a guest, it was his house.
The subtle he/she sometimes brash public persona challenges cultural norms and limits with their perverse idea that inclusion of every sin in the lives of your fellow family and friends must be accepted if you are not to be ostracized as a judgmental exception to the rule of relationships in the
community of the Common Era.
The same evolutionary approach to social norms such as divorceless marriage and abortionless commitment to a child by its father and mother might well become the cocaine guy or thri-sexual conversation of your next family dinner.
So where indeed does prudence dwell until conviction of conversation confront the truth with love?
Hahaha thanks for the comment and feedback. I’m afraid “throuple” can mean many different things, but if you feel destabilized by the confusing terminology, you’re in good company, I think that’s the point. The words and bizarre relationship arrangements are made up and intended to destabilize and confuse us. And just remember, you can take the man outta Leesburg, but it’s a lot harder to take the Leesburg outta the man!
Wow, the things that can take us by surprise at work. 🤦🏼♀️ I think if that had happened to me, I'd be very tempted to say something along the lines of, "Maybe the fact that they're polyamorous is the cause of their need for therapy! "
I saw a video online of a mom practicing possible conversations her 5 year old could have with a friend. (Ex. If someone says they like peanut butter sandwiches and you don't like peanut butter sandwiches, you don't have to say, eww yuck! Peanut butter sandwiches are yucky. Instead you could just say, That's nice, but I like ham sandwiches. My favorite color is blue, what's your favorite color?) 😁
I feel like we need to have some practice conversations for these surprising situations that can catch us off guard. But I'm really not sure how to prepare? 🤷🏼♀️
So far I've been fortunate in not being in a situation where it would be quite easy for me to put my foot in my mouth. I want to communicate God's love to others clearly, yet without purposely offending anyone. I guess if they take offense, when none was intended, then that's on them.
I like your analogy of seeing something shocking at a party. Sometimes it does feel that way, and it is eerie that no one else notices.
I always enjoy reading your posts! You give me lots of things to think about.
Sorry for the late response. Preparing for conversations can be tough but I think we can talk with each other and decide where our lines are that we won't cross, in principle. So when we are confronted by a situations like this we can remember those principles and what we said we would not compromise on etc. And we can boil that down for our little ones to help them do the same. It is tough and uncharted territory but it is a good thing to do. As always thanks for reading and giving feedback Susan! See you soon.
I’ve been struggling with the prudent handling of personal knowledge of such matters by remaining mute about the elephant I observed in the room where family were not present. I didn’t ask for the cocaine guy at the party where I was a guest, it was his house.
The subtle he/she sometimes brash public persona challenges cultural norms and limits with their perverse idea that inclusion of every sin in the lives of your fellow family and friends must be accepted if you are not to be ostracized as a judgmental exception to the rule of relationships in the
community of the Common Era.
The same evolutionary approach to social norms such as divorceless marriage and abortionless commitment to a child by its father and mother might well become the cocaine guy or thri-sexual conversation of your next family dinner.
So where indeed does prudence dwell until conviction of conversation confront the truth with love?
Hey Roger thanks brother for the subscribe, comment and the feedback. I appreciate you and hope you enjoy my other posts. Thanks again! Cheers
Aloha, Thanks for that. It was a lot for an old man to digest at 0700.
I guess it is hard for a line drawn in the sand to be significant on a broad beach especially when the line should have been drawn a long time ago.
As always, your insight gives me pause.
I do love some of those 'old' out of fashion old words like "prudence" and "virtues".
But "thruples" needs further definition: two men/one woman, one man/two women, three fluid individuals. Do you see the complexity? Thanks...
As for "Leesburg" I was glad when they said unto me, let us go in the Coast Guard and leave the Burg behind.
Shalom, Joe
Hahaha thanks for the comment and feedback. I’m afraid “throuple” can mean many different things, but if you feel destabilized by the confusing terminology, you’re in good company, I think that’s the point. The words and bizarre relationship arrangements are made up and intended to destabilize and confuse us. And just remember, you can take the man outta Leesburg, but it’s a lot harder to take the Leesburg outta the man!
Wow, the things that can take us by surprise at work. 🤦🏼♀️ I think if that had happened to me, I'd be very tempted to say something along the lines of, "Maybe the fact that they're polyamorous is the cause of their need for therapy! "
I saw a video online of a mom practicing possible conversations her 5 year old could have with a friend. (Ex. If someone says they like peanut butter sandwiches and you don't like peanut butter sandwiches, you don't have to say, eww yuck! Peanut butter sandwiches are yucky. Instead you could just say, That's nice, but I like ham sandwiches. My favorite color is blue, what's your favorite color?) 😁
I feel like we need to have some practice conversations for these surprising situations that can catch us off guard. But I'm really not sure how to prepare? 🤷🏼♀️
So far I've been fortunate in not being in a situation where it would be quite easy for me to put my foot in my mouth. I want to communicate God's love to others clearly, yet without purposely offending anyone. I guess if they take offense, when none was intended, then that's on them.
I like your analogy of seeing something shocking at a party. Sometimes it does feel that way, and it is eerie that no one else notices.
I always enjoy reading your posts! You give me lots of things to think about.
Susan McKenna 🌱
Sorry for the late response. Preparing for conversations can be tough but I think we can talk with each other and decide where our lines are that we won't cross, in principle. So when we are confronted by a situations like this we can remember those principles and what we said we would not compromise on etc. And we can boil that down for our little ones to help them do the same. It is tough and uncharted territory but it is a good thing to do. As always thanks for reading and giving feedback Susan! See you soon.